When a frenemy sabotaged me and my work
Do you spend days working and re-working something creative (whether it be your blog post, book, video, invention, business idea, art or music) only to want to start all over again?
Does it feel like it’s never good enough?
This was the merry-go-round I used to ride on when I confused excellence with perfectionism.
I used to think that doing my best meant having to get it RIGHT, and that anything less than perfect was UNACCEPTABLE.
Aiming for perfection may have gotten me far in the things I chose to do, but it also kept me from trying things that could’ve led to huge opportunities.
Not anymore. I now see perfectionism for what it is – a frenemy – wanting to sabotage my success and keep me small.
Perfectionism pretends to have my best interests at heart, when in reality, it uses fear to control me and the outcome.
This is your ONE chance to prove yourself, so you better not mess up!
It better go THIS way because there’s no other option.
You better not fail or people will laugh at you.
Excellence, on the other hand, encourages me to take risks and focuses on effort rather than the outcome.
Every action you take will lead to the next step. It’s all part of your journey.
Be open to getting it wrong. Trust that you’re continually guided on your path.
I don’t want to live my life restricted anymore - in who I can be and what I can do - by perfectionism.
As fearless creators in our lives, our job is not to control or dictate the outcome.
Our job is to take inspired action and trust that the universe responds by leading us to the next door.
So, as with any other frenemy, I’m choosing to unfriend perfectionism and delete it from my contact lists, and from my life. (Note: I don't actually have any frenemies, but if I did, this is what I would do with them!)
How about you? Will you also break up with perfectionism? Will you trust that your actions are moving you forward on your path? What inspired action are you now free to take? Share with me in the comments below.
To freeing ourselves of perfectionism so we can make the difference we’re meant to make!
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